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December 8, 2008

The distressing signs that calls for help

Filed under: behavior problems,help for parents,interventions,Parent Support Groups,parenting teens,teen behaviors,Teen Health,Teen Inspiration,teen safety,Uncategorized — admin @ 11:26 am

Recurrent depression, cribbing, lamenting
Adolescents might illustrate their invasive grief by dressing up in black outfits, scripting poems with gloomy messages and themes, or having an obsession with tunes which has sad themes. They possibly will sob for no obvious cause.

Despair
Young adults possibly will feel that there is no meaning to existence and it’s not worth living or important to sustain their looks or cleanliness. They might suppose so as to an unhelpful situation will by no means alter and live cynical concerning their outlook in life and future.

Less attention in favorite past times and hobbies:
Adolescents may turn out to be indifferent and loose interest in partying, clubs, games, and additional past times they once happened to enjoy. Nothing seems to interest a troubled teenager.
Constant dullness
Lack of inspiration, enthusiasm and less liveliness is noticed by irregular attendance in school. The child becomes very dull and depressed.

Communal separation, introvert
Teenagers may shun family and friends. Teens who loved spending time with friends will stay in isolation. Teenagers may not share their feelings with anyone thinking that no one cares about them and they are all alone in the world. This will further add to their worries leading to depression.

Low self-worth
Teens may feel like they are failures in life and this will have a negative impact on their self esteem and self worth.

Intense fear of failure
Thinking that they are not worth anything in life and they are failures will lead to further depression.

Amplified bad temper, annoyance, or aggression
Unhappy adolescents are often bad-tempered, leading to misbehaving with family.

Complexity with relations
Teenagers may suddenly stop calling friends and relatives. Stay in isolation.

Recurrent complaints of body pain and nervousness
Teenagers may complain of body pain, menstrual problems and bouts of nervousness leading to depression.

Less absorption
Teenagers may have a problem in concentrating in studies, following a television program or following a conversation.

Efforts of running away from home
Running away is a major sign of depression and it is a cry for assistance.
Consuming alcohol and drugs
Depressed teens will consume drugs and alcohol to feel better.

Self-Destruction
Adolescents who have complexity in discussing about their thoughts possibly will demonstrate their disturbing anxiety, bodily distress, arousing pain, and low self-worth with self-destructible behavior.

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November 26, 2008

PARENTING TIPS TO IMPROVE VERBAL INTERACTION WITH KIDS

Filed under: behavior problems,Parent Support Groups,parenting teens,teen behaviors,Teen Health,Teen Help,Teen Inspiration,teen safety,Uncategorized — admin @ 11:38 pm

To assist parents increase the level, and improve the quality, of their verbal interactions with their children, here are a few suggestions.

• Keep a paper and a pencil handy and make notes of the things you hear your children talking about or expressing interest in. When you hear them discussing to their friends or to one another, make note of the things they spoke about. The topics they bring up on their own and spend time talking about provide you with the best clues available about what is of interest to them.

• Talk to your children in a very natural way. Make sure it doesn’t come across as a formal discussion.
• Don’t try to be too “hip” as you talk to children. Avoid the use of terms and language the kids use. Use terms that are most familiar to you and the most characteristic of you, but which the kids understand. Kids don’t like it when their parents try to talk like kids.

• Watch for signs that tell you you’ve talked long enough. Ordinarily, conversations with children about “just things” don’t usually last very long. For that matter, kids don’t typically spend very long talking with their friends about such things. They bounce around from topic to topic, and thing to thing, never spending much time on anything or going into much depth

• Keep the conversation dignified. Avoid gossip, profanity, off-color jokes, or turns-of-phrase that compromise your adult level of dignity and civility. Remain a cut above “just one of the guys.” Children want their parents to have class. They want their parents to be someone to look up to. The quality of your conversations with them can go a long way in establishing that image of you in your children’s eyes. An occasional, appropriate joke is a very good thing. While the family is gathered around the dinner table is a wonderful time to share a good joke and bring a little humor into the family.

• Avoid ethnic jokes or any kind of joke or story that puts another person or another people down or that evokes humor at the expense of someone else. Maintain your dignity as an adult by showing respect for other cultures. Children really appreciate that.

• Regarding jokes, appropriate, clean humor is a characteristic of low-risk families. In such families there is a lot of smiling, laughing and lots of happy times. Come to the dinner table every night with a couple of good jokes.
Children who learn good verbal skills are more likely to also have good social skills.

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November 25, 2008

Characteristics parents should possess to promote personal happiness to build endurance and eliminate stress

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Following are characteristics we as parents should possess to eliminate stress, build physical and emotional endurance, and promote personal happiness:

1. Predictable in life style – Persons who enclose themselves with argument and who struggle for alternative life styles be inclined to experience less rewarding lives, characterized by grief.

2. Less thoughtful – Contented adults are likely not to be quite as liable to spend huge quantities of their time focused upon themselves, how they feel, what they are thinking. Etc.

3. Physically energetic – Exercise is a miracle that cures all kinds of problems – including stress.

4. Capability to share burdens – There is a real value in selectively sharing the problems we face with people who are truly trustworthy and caring.

5. Information of one’s restrictions – If a problem is beyond your limits, confess it and accept that there is only so much that you can do. This often frees you to find solutions which would otherwise be hidden.

6. Self-esteem – You are extraordinary and special. Treat yourself that way. Eat properly, set yourself a regular routine for sleep, dress upbeat, groom well, etc. It does wonders in boosting up your self confidence and self esteem.

7. Relaxation – People under stress tend to avoid relaxing. Relaxing yourself will help eliminate stress.

8. Involvement – One way to deal with stress is to focus your attention on other people. Get involved in the lives of others. Help your neighbor in some way. Join a service club. Volunteer to be a fund raiser. Do it! Serve others.

9. Organization – Make lists of what you need to do, and then check them off one by one. Lists give order and make complex tasks appear possible. Lists give hope and reduce tension.

10. Ability to be wrong – Being right all the time is impossible. Learn to do your best and accept that you will fall flat on your face from time to time. Just get up, smile, laugh at yourself, and move on.

11. Sense of humor – Read the funny papers, the jokes in magazines, etc. Interact with joyful people and learn to laugh with them. Laughter is wonderful medicine.

12. Ability to express emotion – If you are sad shed a few tears. Cry and then get back to the business of living. Laugh a lot, particularly at yourself. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

13. Getting away – It is always well to take time-outs. Find a peaceful place and go there for nothing else but to get away and forget the troubles of the day. Go fishing, shopping, etc

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Communication between Parents and Adolescents

Filed under: behavior problems,Parent Support Groups,parenting teens,special education,teen behaviors,Teen Help,teen safety — admin @ 1:29 am

Human beings constantly change during their lifetime. These changes are in size, shape, appearance and psychological changes. These changes vary from person to person. However the essential fundamental patterns of growth and development stay the same and occur in a systematic way. Every individual with their unique heredity and the way they are nurtured determines the way they traverse the path of their life. Every human being attains the size, shape, capacities and development in a way which is uncharacteristic to him/her at every stage of life.

Every person goes through various stages of childhood, adolescence, adulthood and old age. In each of these stages the person goes through physical, emotional, psychological changes. The most significant factor that shapes the individuality and personality of a human being through the stages of development is communication. Communicating with the family members is very important. It plays a very important part in framing the personality of a person throughout the adolescent phase. Good communication can establish the parent child relationships during infancy, childhood, adolescence and beyond. It helps us shun lots of troubles, and unravel those that occur. It fosters warmth, indulgence, faith, admiration, deliberation and fun. Words are complex things, and the majority of families hit patches while accepting and listening to each other seem hard. Poor communication and simple misunderstandings has been the root of all kinds of problems.

Parents and children should not have a communication gap, and they should talk to each other. As parents, you are aware of the changes that teenagers go through. But parents are unwilling to receive in the emotional and societal maturity that the child attains. Parents usually look back at the good old childhood days of their children that they spend together and they are uncertain of the new changes that without doubt dawns on them. We try to establish the identified and acceptable personality traits in our children that is in them hereditarily, and try to do away with those character traits which seem unfamiliar to parents.
Adolescents must comprehend truly what meticulous changes they undergo physically and psychologically, what makes their parents suddenly look like aliens to them, and how they can help to conquer this situation which causes massive twinge both to their parents and them. Parents also require realizing these developmental features in themselves and also their kids. It is the parent’s responsibility to be properly aware of the various developmental changes that occur in their child and properly interact and communicate with them so that the child without any hesitation opens up with them, and asks for suggestions and advice.

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November 14, 2008

Parenting Tips That Guide You Through The Disturbed Phase Of life

Filed under: behavior problems,depression,interventions,Parent Support Groups,parenting teens,special education,teen behaviors,Teen Depression,Teen Drug Abuse,Teen Health,Teen Help,Teen Inspiration,teen safety,Uncategorized — admin @ 4:16 am

Adolescents are at high risk for such behaviors as drug or alcohol abuse, pregnancy, brutality, cruelty, dejection, depression or suicide. One of the difficulties parents face is how to recognize the more restrained indicators of such behavioral problems and when and how to get involved.

The reasons why parents delay in helping their struggling adolescence is the confusion about whether their child is actually a troubled teen or not. They don’t know the habits of a troubled teen and when do they really need to help them. Many parents have a tendency to compare their own children with other children.

Although it is very enticing to compare your own children to other adolescents do avoid this tendency. This only triggers offense and discouragement in teenagers. Every person should be treated as a unique individual. Otherwise, the teens get discouraged. Parents can see for themselves if their child is troubled or in a self-destructive path and will do the best they can to help them. Parents should trust their instincts and seize all the necessary actions before the situation worsens.

Several adolescents grow to be skilled manipulators, extremely secretive and skilled at wriggling out of any situation. If the parents don’t keep a check on them, these teens can effortlessly influence and manipulate the situation so that the parent feels things are stable.

Is your teen disturbed or is your child just an ordinary adolescent facing the increasing pains of becoming an adult? There are some signs of a truly troubled teenager. The following Parenting tips would help you to be always cautious and on the watch out for your teens. If you doubt your child is a troubled teen, take actions quickly.

Signs of a troubled teen:

·         The teen becomes very secretive, and desires       The teen becomes very secretive, and desires greater privacy and isolation.
·         Your teen has unexpected outbursts of irritation and annoyance that is evidently irrational and out of proportion of the reason causing anger.
·  Your teen lies about his/her whereabouts.
·  Your teen has unexpectedly changed his or her peer group and hasn’t made an attempt to make you meet their new friends. This new group has lead to a dissimilar transformation in appearances and drastic change in attitude.
·  Your adolescent has stolen money from your purse regularly.
·  Your adolescence has tremendous mood swings, from depression to elation, and seems to sleep lot more than usual times.
·  Your child’s grades have suddenly dropped and the child has lost all interest in the usual routine and hobbies.

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